Rape. is something that happened to me, that I should not have to be ashamed of. Rape. is what someone did to me that I refer to in polite conversation as “assault” or “something shitty”. Rape. is the only thing I could call this post to remind myself of its realness, and not something I imagined or exaggerated in the deep, dark pits of my own mind in the aftermath.
I decided pretty early on into #30for30 that I'd want to do some analysis if I could get the results. It seemed natural: I spent a lot of my professional career in data and analysis. My first profile asked for guys' favorite shortcut in excel. And, as the twenty three year old I recently hooked up with (#daddygang) wryly observed, I am a "huge fucking nerd."
After a string of eight or so dates in a row in early June of 2018, I realized that I too might be able to make a 30 for 30. Thirty dates in thirty days. This made me feel pretty clever and cheeky (who doesn’t want to compare themselves to professional athletes?), but also added a sense of grandeur to my silly experiment with online dating. The first of this two part post talks about how I got started, and the next will feature some of the results. Enjoy.
This series is inspired by my experiences dating as a (mostly) straight, cis-woman in her late twenties in the San Francisco Bay Area.